HONEST communication... Not to be confused with OPEN AND HONEST communication.
Being open involves a level of transparency- free from assumptions and judgments, with the ability to listen well without jumping to conclusions or getting defensive.
From my perspective, a conversation can be horrible...yet if/when both parties are honest and - even if just for brief second - I am able to get a glimpse of understanding of/from where the other person is coming from (achieved by listening with the heart, not with the ego), I deem it a success.
We are constantly telling each other who we really are - with and without words. Some of us are much better at listening... observing... catching on...than others.
I was giving someone and some thing the benefit of the doubt - as I often do... until this afternoon. After an hour+ long conversation, I am led to believe that 1- it is pointless to try to have a connection-esque type of conversation with this person; and 2- things will never change. Comments blurted out and actions taken - and inactions taken - throughout the conversation have been logged in my memory. Such a shame.
I am done.
I am officially done!
And it feels so good!
Thank you for showing me your true colors. I can confidently say that I am not interested in polluting ("coloring") my life with any of the shades of condescension, detachment, judgment, or entitlement that fill your crayon box. Under different circumstances and a different corporate umbrella, I imagine that we would have worked well together. That's not the case; that's not our story. I hope your children never have a boss like you when they get into the work place.
I am grafeful for our interaction. Now I know where you stand. And now I know where I stand with you. This clarity is priceless (especially since you said I am not eligible for a merit increase)!
I officially give myself permission to make peace with this nearly-two-year (negative... toxic... hostile... traumatic) ordeal.
I officially have the peace of mind that I was seeking.
I feel confident with this new found clarity!
My confidence will sustain me.
My strength will help me endure the tough time that I forsee ahead.
My faith and ability to dream BIG will keep me motivated to move forward. ALWAYS.
My tenacity and perseverence will guide me to greater, more fulfilling opportunities.
My capacity to love will keep me humble and help me honor myself and my soul.
My forgiving nature releases me the chains and limits and boundaries I forced upon myself in order to please you.
My accepting spirit acknowledges you right where you are on your journey - today; in this moment.
In these acts, I am set free.
In these acknowledgements, I am set free.
In these thoughts, I am set free.
There is so much confidence in clarity!
Because there is clarity, I am set free.
I am set free!
...free to be ME.
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